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When we’re talking sex positions, we tend to focus solely on the main event: where to do it, how to do it, and how much to do it, etc. Mostly absent from this discussion is any mention of foreplay positions — the very stuff that gets us doing it in the first place — and we’ve overlooked them for too long. Because, after all, one can’t have a middle and end without first having a beginning. And really, we can’t reasonably expect to reach a rewarding conclusion without putting in at least a little work on the front end.

And that work doesn’t just start in bed. “Foreplay is everything that leads to having sex, so technically this starts at any point after your last sexual connection,” sex coach Jenna Switzer tells SheKnows. “We often think of it as simply what happens just before sex to turn us on, but in reality, foreplay is all the little things that keep us attracted to our partner(s) and lead us to sexual intimacy. “

And foreplay gets a bad rap as the part you have to just power through to get aroused, before you can get to the “good stuff”. In our humble opinion, it’s all good stuff — and it’s not just about getting the relevant body parts appropriately hard, wet, etc. “The whole constellation of activities such as kissing, caressing, touching, oral sex, and verbal exchange is aimed at building arousal, anticipation and sexual tension between partners,” Aliyah Moore, PhD, a certified sex therapist and relationship expert at SexualAlpha, tells SheKnows. Foreplay, Moore explains, can enhance sensation, deepen your emotional connection, help you maintain mutual satisfaction, and let you both indulge in novelty and creativity. “Foreplay gives the partners a chance of discovering something new,” she says, like “experimenting with new methods, positions, and fantasies, which is an improvement to their sexual repertoire.” 

When it comes to the best foreplay positions, it’s all about experimenting with what feels best for you and your partner(s). Of course, some might argue that there are only a handful of ways to do foreplay — and all of them are pretty self-explanatory — but the same could be said about sex itself. The whole thing is pretty straightforward, but that doesn’t keep us from inventing slightly new ways to do it or discussing its many intricacies, and a couple small tweaks can make a major difference. So with that in mind, let’s give foreplay its due. Break out a few of these spicy foreplay positions next time you’re getting hot and heavy and see what a difference some creativity can make.

Spoon

You can’t go wrong with this classic, which is perfect for lazy mornings or late, sleepy nights. You and your partner both lie down on your sides, facing the same direction. The partner in back slides their arms around the one in front, giving them perfect access for hugging, kissing, and touching. “Spoon position is designed to be cozy and close with comfort to your partner, as well as to prevent strain on people’s bodies as much as possible,” Moore says. It’s also perfect if you and your partner are different heights or sizes, letting you explore each other’s bodies at your leisure.

Virgo

The Virgo is a perfect position for impromptu oral sex — or foreplay that feels a little out-of-the-box. The receiving partner starts by standing with their back against a wall. Their legs should be far enough apart that their partner can sit down — legs crossed, facing the receiving partner — and slide in between their legs. The receiving partner can lean against the wall and bend their knees until their partner has ample access to their nether parts. From there, you can both engage in some serious finger and oral play.

Up Against the Wall

Get spontaneous with this simple standing foreplay position. One partner stands flat against the wall with their back to their partner, while the other partner stands behind with their arms around them to touch and kiss. This position is perfect for heating things up even before you get to the bedrooms (gently pressing your partner into a wall or door because you can’t wait to get your hands on them? Hot) as well as providing support, balance, and the potential for touch and play all over the body, Moore says.

Low Doggy

The Low Doggy serves as an excellent precursor to from-behind penetration, but it’s exciting enough to stand on its own. Start by lying, face-down, on a bed, a couch, or some other comfy surface. The receiving partner can bend their knees so their feet are in the air, with a pillow under their pelvis to make things a little cozier. Their partner can climb on top so both partners’ knees and heads are aligned. From there, they can penetrate the receiving partner with their fingers or a toy (LELO Enigma is great if you want a particularly intense experience). If you’re into it, hair-pulling is a sexy addition to this position.

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Mirage

As a foreplay position, the Mirage goes both ways, inviting both you and your partner to get in on the action. The receiving partner starts by lying down with their knees bent and feet planted on the ground (or the bed, or the couch — you know the drill.) Their partner kneels, straddling the receiving partner’s head, facing their legs. From there, they can bend over to reach the receiving partner’s genitals and vice versa, leaving you both free to stimulate each other with mouth and hands.

Temptation

The Temptation is a fun way to turn up the heat — before sex, in the middle of it, or even at the end of it. The receiving partner starts by lying down on the edge of a surface — ideally, somewhere that’s pretty high up. Think: a table, a countertop, or possibly a bed (assuming it’s adequately lofted). Once lying down, they can bend their knees and pull them into their chest so their feet are way up in the air. If it’s comfortable, they can even rock forward a little bit and prop themselves up on the elbows. From there, their partner can stand, facing the receiving partner, and they can stimulate them using their fingers or a toy (I love suction toys for this kind of position — like Womanizer Premium or Unbound’s Puff for people with clits), and the receiving partner can reach down to stimulate them as well. The best part? This foreplay position puts you face to face, so you can kiss each other the entire time.

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Reverse

The Reverse is an excellent foreplay option for those looking to try something very new. The receiving partner lies down with their knees bent and feet planted in front of them. (The bend can be pretty subtle as long as it feels stable and comfortable.) Their partner to lies down on top, facing the ceiling, with their head aligned with the receiving partner’s legs, and their legs bent, straddling the receiving partner’s head. Once there, adjust until your partner’s genitals reach your mouth and you can engage in some serious oral play.

Hunger

The Hunger is a classic foreplay position — one you’ll likely recognize, even if you’ve never called it by that name. The receiving partner starts by sitting on the edge of the bed, knees bent and toes grazing the floor. Their partner kneels in front, facing them. From there, they can engage in all kinds of finger and oral play — even stimulating the receiving partner with a toy, if you so choose. Since this position starts on the bed, it’s a perfect segue into more classic penetrative sex as well as other kinds of foreplay.

Tamer

The Tamer is an incredibly cozy form of foreplay, fit for drowsy mornings and late evenings alike. The receiving partner lies on their side, and invites their partner to do the same — but they should be lying perpendicular to the receiving partner, with their upper body nestled between the receiving partner’s legs. (You should be able to make eye contact. If you aren’t, one of you is facing the wrong way!) From there, they should have easy access to the receiving partner’s genitals, giving them space to stimulate their fingers or a sex toy (Dame’s Com Wand Vibrator is an amazing option for this one). And the receiving partner can reach behind themselves to stimulate their partner, too.

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Compliment

Another classic form of foreplay, the Compliment is an easy addition to anyone’s sexual repertoire. The receiving partner kneels just behind the edge of the bed, while their partner kneels on the ground in front of them. They can adjust as necessary until they can easily reach the receiving partner’s genitals, and then stimulate them using their mouth, their hands, or a sex toy.

Pendant

69 by another name, the Pendant invites you and your partner to pleasure each other in equal measure. One partner lies down with their knees bent and their feet planted in front of them, while the other climbs on top of them, facing them, with the top partner’s legs straddling their torso and head snuggled in between their legs. From there, you should have access to each other’s genitals, giving you both the opportunity to stimulate each other however you see fit — with your mouths, your hands, or a couple sex toys.

Blindfolded

Nothing like incorporating a homemade sex toy to spice things up. “Just before sex, if you’re looking to heighten arousal, you can try blindfolding a partner (or have them close their eyes) and touch them in various ways,” Switzer suggests. “You could do finger tips, deeper massages, light spanks, try exploring different parts of their body than where you normally spend time.” You can use a sleep mask, a necktie, or a dark T-shirt as a DIY blindfold.

Foreplay Tips

Pair your new foreplay positions with these expert tips to keep things fresh and fun:

Foreplay can last all day long. No, we’re not talking about spending the whole day in bed together (although… that sounds fun) — more like finding ways to tease and flirt throughout the day so you’re riled up by the time you’re both home. “Is your partner turned on by sexy photos, flirty texts, dirty talk, surprises?” Switzer says. “If you’re not sure, simply ask! Find ways to incorporate versions of this throughout the day.”

Spell it out. Heighten the excitement of whatever position you choose “by telling your partner exactly what you plan to do to them (or exactly what you want them to do to you),” Switzer says. “This gives us a sensual mental image, a sense of excitement, and heightened awareness of the experience.” It’s also a great way make sure you’re both on board with what’s coming next, while keeping you in the moment together. That kind of communication is crucial, Moore adds. “Open and honest communication will help you grasp your partner’s wants, limits, and expectations.”

Pay attention. “Focus on your partner’s responses and signals during foreplay,” Moore says. “Try to investigate multiple kinds of touch, pressure and stimulation to define what gives each of you the most pleasure.” Plus, seeing what turns your partner on will be a huge turn-on for you too.

Involve every sense. Light some candles, play some soft music, and put on your silkiest sheets or clothes. It’s worth the effort: Engaging all five senses during foreplay can help to build arousal and pleasure, Moore says.

Lube it up. Lube can add comfort and satisfaction during foreplay, especially if you’re getting into manual stimulation or oral sex, Moore says. She recommends using a water- or silicon-based lubricant that works with condoms and sex toys.

Keep up the eye contact. Eye contact is a seriously underrated turn-on. “Eye contact can make intimacy and connection during foreplay even more profound,” Moore explains. “Stare into the eyes of your partner, as you discover unknown places in each other and translate your desire and passion without words.”

Take your time. Foreplay isn’t the appetizer — “it’s the ingredients of the main dish,” Switzer says. It’s what will make that main dish taste oh-so-delicious. “Also, foreplay is a great time to explore and tease, find new erogenous zones, and spice up your sex life,” she adds, so enjoy every moment and don’t rush through it.

A previous version of this article was published in 2020.

You can be your own passionate partner. Try out these masturbation positions for DIY pleasure: 

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We love our fancy, high-tech sex toys, but sometimes — for example, when you’re getting a little frisky in the kitchen — there’s just not enough time to run into your bedroom and unearth your favorite paddle or dildo. This is where grabbing a homemade sex toy like a spatula or cucumber might come in handy. Using a household item for sexy things might feel a bit weird at first, but can also be a fun way to spice things up inside and outside of the bedroom, while also being cost-effective.

“A big draw of household items is the budget aspect. Basically, we’re all trying to save money and most of us don’t have hundreds of dollars to spend on sex toys so if we can get creative and save, that’s a big win,” Gigi Engle, a certified sex and relationship psychotherapist and sex expert at the LGBTQIA+ dating app, Taimi, tells SheKnows. “[Household items] can also be fun because often we use a household item rather spontaneously which can add some spice to your sex life. Plus, we’re getting really creative and essentially playing an erotic game with ourselves and our partners when we’re thinking about non-sexual items in a sexy way.”

Another benefit? When you use a regular, household item as a homemade sex toy, you’re injecting a little bit of passion into your everyday life. “Any time that object is seen or used outside of the bedroom, it will spark a memory of the shared sexual exploration,” sex coach Jenna Switzer tells SheKnows. “This is an epic way to keep the passion alive even during mundane daily chores.”

How to Use Homemade Sex Toys Safely

Before we go through the list, remember that safety and cleanliness are key! Prior to putting any foreign object in your body (including your vagina, mouth, anus, or anywhere else), it must be sanitized and ideally covered with a condom. Otherwise, it could cause irritation or abrasions (not at all sexy, folks). For good measure, get in the habit of cleansing anything you use sexually post-game too. And yes, you should also be cleaning sex toys (and keeping in mind that we have to say goodbye to every good vibe eventually.)

“Our bodies’ natural bacterial balance can easily be thrown off by the foreign bacteria lodged in the crevices of toys or food,” Switzer says. “Be mindful that you clean items thoroughly with a non-scented soap and use condoms on any objects that you use for penetration.” Another bonus of using condoms, Switzer adds, is that they’ll reveal any hidden, sharp edges on the object.

Some of the household sex toys we recommend here aren’t specifically designed for skin contact (think candles, vegetables, and ice). In those cases, “be very mindful about application and use,” Switzer says. “Gently test temperature items on a small area of skin to gauge sensitivity.” If you have any concerns about an object, run it by your ob/gyn (awkward conversation, we know, but better than an infection!) or skip it.

Besides considering the safety and hygiene aspects of using homemade sex toys, ASTROGLIDE’S resident sexologist Dr. Jess O’Reilly notes that many of the suggestions below involve kinky play, so you’ll want to ensure you’re communicating before, during and after the interaction. “Discuss your desires and boundaries ahead of time. If you’re getting kinky, you may want to select a safe work or safe signal,” she tells SheKnows. “Safe words and safe signals are coded responses that allow you to clearly and immediately communicate your limits and needs.” For example, O’Reilly says, you can snap your fingers or raise your hands to indicate that you are feeling uncomfortable and want to stop. “Safe words and signals should be clearly defined and if you want to stop or have changed your mind about any activity, you shouldn’t hesitate to use yours with the expectation that your partner will respond immediately.”

22 Best Homemade Sex Toys

Keeping that in mind, continue reading to check out some of our favorite homemade sex toys that, if used correctly (and safely), will give you a mind-blowing orgasm and leave you impressed with your own sexual ingenuity. Warning: you might not look at your spatula the same way again.

A version of this story was originally published in August 2017.

Our mental image of cunnilingus tends to be pretty formulaic: the receiving partner lying on their back, legs spread and a partner bending down to pleasure them. This position is hardly the only way to do it. Obvious variations include the classic “Sit on My Face” positions, as well as the equally iconic 69. But even these three positions don’t encompass a fraction of what’s on offer in the world of oral sex. 

When it comes to cunnilingus positions, “comfort is key,” sex coach Jenna Switzer tells SheKnows. The receiving partner can feel “very exposed,” she explained, so good technique and trust with your partner is paramount. Communication and letting your partner what feels good and what doesn’t is also super important, adds Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn (aka Dr. Tara), a sex and relationship coach, sex expert on TikTok, and professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton. When done right, cunnilingus can be incredible at “stimulating and building arousal” for people with vulvas.

The entire landscape of cunnilingus positions expands far beyond our go-tos, and it’s just waiting to be discovered. Isn’t it time we collectively explored the frontiers that lay just outside our norms? Here are eight cunnilingus positions you probably haven’t tried yet, but you and your partner will totally want to add to your bedroom repertoire.

Sideways 69

This is an easy variation to start exploring with your partner, Switzer says. It’s the “classic 69,” she says,” but with both partners on their sides rather than one on top of the other.” It’s comfortable but still hot, and familiar enough to get you ready to experiment even more.

All Fours

Sitting on someone’s face can be awesome, because it gives your partner direct access to your nether parts. But it can also be intimidating, awkward or straight-up uncomfortable, because, well, you’re pressing all of your weight onto someone’s face. 

The All Fours plays to the strengths of sitting on your partner’s face without forcing you to literally sit on your partner’s face. By getting on your hands and knees above your lying partner, you’re supporting yourself — and doing so in a generally comfortable way. This also gives your partner the option of “pleasuring the whole area,” Dr. Tara adds, including or not including your anus. So basically, it’s all the intensity you expect from face-sitting, without the discomfort.

Pillow Princess

This popular position, suggested by Dr. Tara, is a simple variation on your typical legs-spread option. The vulva owner places a pillow under their butt, lifting their pelvic area and “making it easy to receive,” Dr. Tara explains.

Lean Forward

An easy way to switch things up? Stand during oral sex. While most cunnilingus positions involve you sitting or lying down, the Lean Forward has you standing up and — you guessed it — leaning forward while your partner kneels behind you. Feel free to use the walls for stability, be they in your bedroom, your living room, or your shower.

Wrapped Eagle

The Wrapped Eagle offers a slight twist on the most classic of cunnilingus positions. Instead of lying down with your legs splayed out, have your legs wrapped around your partner’s head. This can mitigate some of the vulnerability associated with the more obvious Spread Eagle position — plus, it allows you to control the pressure. Simply pull your partner closer to you when you’re looking to up the intensity.

Forbidden Fruit

Fans of doggy-style will surely appreciate this approach to cunnilingus. Get on all fours — but on your knees and elbows, rather than your knees and hands for the Forbidden Fruit. Once you’ve gotten comfortable, invite your partner to join you. From behind, they’ll have direct access to your genitals.

Modified 69

Modified 69 took everything you love about face-sitting and combined it with everything you love about 69. Have your partner lie with their head and shoulders hanging off the side of the bed as you stand up. Walk toward them so you’re straddling over their face. From there, you can bend over to engage in a little reciprocity, or just enjoy being on the receiving end for a little while.

The nice part? You can control the intensity by bending your knees as much or as little as you want. You can also support yourself by leaning forward and placing your hands on the bed.

Virgo

This incredibly intense position will have you standing as your partner explores you from an entirely new angle. For the Virgo, simply stand up straight, with your back against the wall. Your partner can sit below you in whatever position they choose —so long as they can reach your genitals. From there, they can perform cunnilingus as long as desired, and you can always move to the bed if you want a softer surface.

Kick Back

If lying down during cunnilingus isn’t really your thing, you might appreciate the Kick Back. A seated take on a classic, the Kick Back offers your partner direct access to your nether bits without leaving you splayed out on the bed. This is especially alluring if you’ve got a comfy chair to partake in. The next time you’re looking to change things up, you know exactly where to go.

All Curled Up

This one is a little more vulnerable, but so satisfying. Lie down, then bend your knees and hug your legs as close to your chest as they’ll go. The All Curled Up position will introduce an entirely new angle to oral sex, which may pave the way for some finger play or sex toy supplementation, too.

A version of this post was originally published in 2019.

Before you go, please check out our bucket list of 69 (nice) sex positions to try:

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A good sex toy is a few things: fun, effective, (generally) long-lasting. A truly excellent sex toy, though, is all of these things — and it’s also easy on the eyes. Pretty sex toys, truly, are the best of both worlds, which is why we’ve rounded up 20 of our favorites right here.

Since a sex toy’s chief purpose is to turn you on, you obviously don’t want to opt for something that leaves you feeling weirded out (or worse, grossed out) every time you look at it. But being discreet in appearance is the least a sex toy can do. Exceptional toys — the toys you swear by and recommend to your friends — do more than the bare minimum. They delight. They entrance. They stun so thoroughly that you may find yourself tempted to adorn every corner of your house with them like your home is a funky little sex museum. And in some cases, the sex toys on offer are so pretty you actually could use them as decor (post-a healthy, product-recommended cleaning regimen!)

Whether haphazardly strewn across a table or carefully assembled on a shelf, some vibrators, dildos, and butt plugs are so stunning that they manage to elevate any space they’re in. We picked out the following sex toys because they’re sure to upgrade any corner of your home with fun colors, unique shapes, and luxe materials. With sex toys this pretty, why not give them something to do when you’re not putting them to good use?

A version of this story was published December 2019.

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Forget your typical “Netflix and Chill”; if you and your boo have agreed to a movie night, why not screen a steamy flick with hot sex scenes to inspire some new moves in the bedroom? Sure, you could always watch another episode of Outlander, but there are plenty of films that pack a similarly smokin’-hot punch.

We challenge you to turn on a sexy film and watch it all the way through with the intention of finding erotic inspiration (either for partnered or solo sex). Think of it like an extended session of foreplay: The racy viewing material will build anticipation, making your eventual romp in the bedroom all the more satisfying.

Viewing a sexy movie is also a great date night idea for couples in long-distance relationships. Imagine watching those NSFW scenes in tandem while in separate locations, discussing exxxactly what got you hot and bothered, and then — well, you get the idea.

To spare you time (and some dodgy Google search results), we compiled a list of racy movies with intimate scenes guaranteed to get your mind going. The films on this list reflect the many different kinds of love out there, including lesbian, gay, and queer relationships. Heads-up, though: You’re probably going to need a cold shower after poring over these titles.

And if these flicks aren’t enough to “get you there,” there’s always femme-friendly porn. We’ve done that research for you too!

A version of this story was published October 2017. This story was updated in May 2023.

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Amazon is a veritable treasure trove of everything a person could need or want. Books? Check. Groceries? Check. Sex toys? Check. Though it may seem seem strange to buy sex toys from the same place you stock up on milk (or at least, on kitchen appliances), Amazon’s called the “everything store” for a reason. Plus, where else offers overnight shipping on all your favorite sex toys for free?

But one of the most surprising perks of buying sex toys on Amazon has nothing to do with its convenient, affordable, and hyper-fast shipping. Instead, it has to do with the fact that everyone shops there, and everyone’s leaving reviews. The internet’s selection of sex toys is so vast and varied that it can be hard to sift through the noise and actually determine what’s worth the cost (plus the wait time). The absolute plethora of customer reviews on Amazon sex toys makes selecting one from many a whole lot easier.

Plus, customer reviews offer you the chance to get a more tactile sense of a toy—what its material feels like, how big it is, what its motor sounds like, how intense it is, and so on. These are questions that usually go unanswered if you’re shopping online. With some purchases, that’s no big deal. But when you’re buying something that’s sole purpose is to feel good against your skin, a best guess isn’t good enough. You want to rest assured knowing you’re buying something that’s as delightful as its description and photos make it seem. While interacting with it in person is the ideal, perusing hundreds of honest customer reviews isn’t a bad back-up plan.

What’s even nicer? Even if you’re a total beginner the sex toy space, you can take cues from others. Ahead, you’ll find the absolute top-rated sex toys on Amazon (and you’ll get a glimpse into some of the rave reviews). Verify the purchase you already knew you wanted to make, or find something worth adding to your wishlist. When the reviews are this good, it’s hard to go wrong.

A version of this story was originally published in September 2017.

Many of us have had the bright idea to take our favorite sex toys outside of the bedroom—and into the shower. The only issue with this plan? While many sex toys are designed to be water-friendly, they aren’t actually waterproof. “Water-resistant” and “fully submersible” are two very different things. And depending on how luxe and price-y your favorite sex toy is that can be a major loss.

Thankfully, there are tons of genuinely waterproof vibrators on the market. So we can all stop murdering our favorite sex toys in a quixotic quest to figure out which ones are bathtub-compatible.

It should come as no surprise that many sex toys are completely waterproof. Suction-cup dildos were practically designed with shower walls in mind, and you can straight-up boil select stainless steel, silicone, and glass toys to clean them. As a general rule of thumb, if it doesn’t have a battery, motor, or some other electrical component, you can probably introduce it to your bathtub. The issue, of course, is that most vibrators have batteries, motors, and other electrical components. Are they totally off-limits in water-heavy settings?

No, they aren’t off-limits—at least, some of them aren’t. Many vibrating toys are genuinely waterproof. You can bring them into the shower or tub—even into the pool or hot tub (assuming you have adequate privacy). Though these toys have electrical or battery-operated components, they boast solid shells that keep water from getting inside. This means you’ll want to take good care of your waterproof toys; a small crack could mean your vibrator is no longer submersible.

What’s nice? Waterproof vibrators are (un)surprisingly abundant. Your options aren’t limited at all. There are waterproof rabbit vibrators, waterproof clitoral vibrators, waterproof anal vibrators, and more. Your go-to vibrator is likely available in a waterproof variation—or at least, something very similar to it is. The space is so vast and varied that you could easily swap out all your favorite vibrators and replace them with waterproof options. And considering how situationally versatile waterproof sex toys are, that might not be such a bad idea after all.

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OK friends, when you think of porn, are you immediately turned off? Yeah, we hear that. It’s 2023, and yet it’s still not an easy task to find porn that you actually want to watch, meaning a website featuring hot, good porn that doesn’t overwhelmingly prioritize the male gaze or the male orgasm. Sure, you can wade through the videos to find one where female pleasure and (over-the-top-slash-faked) female orgasms are the focus — but even then, there’s the distinct feeling that because of the way she’s being filmed, there is still a man calling the shots. Let’s be honest, even if you’re watching it with a male partner, you may get the sense that the porn you’re trying to enjoy isn’t for you. And that can make it harder to lose yourself in the story or the sensations the way you’d want to — the way that you should be able to, with good porn.

So, where are the porn sites that cater to the female gaze, that honor female sexuality in all its beautiful forms and that don’t objectify women in a way that will have you itching to take a shower immediately after viewing (in a bad way)? Where are the porn sites that feel current and up to date with what we want from sexual media today?

Fear no more, friend, because we have found some legitimately great porn sites for you. If you’re tired of porn that feels overwhelmingly straight and cis-male-centric, you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the following selection of sites. And while we’re at it, it’s probably the right time to treat yourself to some new sex toys for good measure.

Quick warning, though: please take care and don’t browse this one at your desk, because you’ll be able to access some NSFW websites from here on out. Click with caution and, when it’s time for You-time, have fun!

A version of this story was published on April 2018.