Dear Mary Balogh,
I’ve been reading your books for ages now. I read everything you release and some of your older books (many of them actually) are on my keeper shelf and are books I go back to again and again. Of course I was going to read Always Remember. I can’t say I wasn’t a bit nervous about it though. It features Lady Jennifer Arden (sister of Luc, the hero from the previous book, Remember Me), who is unable to walk as a result of (apparently) childhood polio*. As much as I love your books, there have been issues with disability representation in them before. This time, disability is front and centre to the story. There is no way to brush it aside.
(*According to the WHO “the first known clinical description of polio, by British doctor Michael Underwood, was not until 1789, and it was formally recognized as a condition in 1840 by German physician Jakob Heine” so I guess it’s possible it was regarded as a mystery at the time Jenny was ill in the early 1800s?)
Ben Ellis is the firstborn son of the Earl of Stratton. He is also illegitimate. He came to live with the Ware family when he was three years old after his mother had died. Devlin, the heir, was a newborn. The Countess of Stratton was presented with another child and evidence of her husband’s philandering almost immediately upon giving birth to her first child. It was a lot for her to take in. Nonetheless, Ben was loved and raised as a member of the family. Almost. He always knew he was not really one of them.
You are treated as an equal as long as you do not behave like one.
Ouch.
It is a somewhat strange situation to be in. I don’t know if there are actual historical analogues but I expect if there were, they were rare. (I know there were illegitimate offspring of royalty (“Fitz-insert-name-here’s) and they sometimes had something of a special status because even illegitimate they were still related to royalty. This is different I think.)
Devlin left Ravenswood following a public argument with his father in Remember Love. Devlin joined the military and went off to war on the Continent. Ben went with him as his batman. When Devlin returned home, Ben did too – carrying a baby in his greatcoat. Ben had been in a relationship with a washerwoman during the war. She fell pregnant, he promptly married her and they had a daughter together, Joy. Then Marjorie died, leaving Ben a widower with a very young baby.
In the two years since he and Devlin returned to England, Ben has purchased (from Devlin) a property by the sea – Penallen – and begun to make a home for him and his now-three-year-old daughter. He’s a man who enjoys being in a steady relationship. He misses it. He doesn’t expect hearts and flowers but he wants a companion and regular sex. He wants Joy to have a mother and he wants more children. His ponderings about who to court among his neighbours are interrupted by a visit to Ravenswood for the first summer fete held in eight years.
The whole extended family are at Ravenswood in the lead up to the fete, not just Ben and Joy. Lady Jennifer Arden is there too.
Ben and Jenny (OMG I have just realised – Ben & Jenny! LOL) have met before but Ben usually keeps himself somewhat apart, making an effort to be inconspicuous and ordinary as a result of his peculiar status within the family and within society. And for his part, Ben realises, he has been uncomfortable with Jenny because of her disability. Once he realises this, he feels awful and determines to do better. Ben is a practically-minded man; he sees a problem and sets his mind to finding options to solve it. When he sees Jenny struggling to walk in the courtyard one day with crutches and gets to talking with her about her dreams of being more mobile, he starts to think of ways he can help.
I did like that Jenny very firmly set him straight and told him she was not a “project”. Ben tried to step into the role of saviour but Jenny wrested that away and “saved” herself.
But, the first thing Ben does is teach Jenny how to drive a gig. Jenny is delighted. For the first time since her illness she is moving freely on her own volition (of course she has the cooperation of the horse).
I did wonder, given how much Jenny is loved, that no-one else in her life had ever tried to help her be more mobile. It was never really answered in the story. I suppose it was put down to her being smothered in love and Jenny being determinedly cheerful so she would not be a mopey bother due to her disability. There’s a scene later in the book where Ben wheels Jenny’s chair around the lake at a picnic. She’d been sitting in one spot before then. Sure people would come and talk to her and she wasn’t ignored but no-one else even thought she might want to move. That seemed weird to me.
In Ben, Jenny finds someone she can confide in; she does not feel the need to be ever-cheerful and is open with him about her hopes and dreams and her struggles. And Ben in return finds someone who understands being different and not quite belonging.
“But I went and had that talk with Cam Holland when I had no business doing so,” he said.
“Yes,” she said. “And I might have rebuked you—as I did. I might have sent word immediately to Mr. Holland that I would have no need of his services, now or ever, thank you kindly. I did not do it. I went instead to talk to him myself, and I took Pippa with me. That whole matter was an issue that became mine, Mr. Ellis. I am a grown woman, and a woman, moreover, with a mind and a voice. I used both. I am becoming increasingly annoyed to find that you and I—both of us—are treated differently from other people by our families. I am coddled, as though I were still the child I was when I fell ill and was quite incapable of managing my own affairs. You are treated as an equal as long as you do not behave like one. If we wish to be friends while we are both here at Ravenswood—which will not be for very much longer—then why should we not be? I do not need permission from my brother or my aunt. You do not need permission from anyone at all.”
When Ben arrived at Ravenswood a letter is waiting which opens the possibility of finding out more about his mother and her family – something he had almost no knowledge of before. He can talk to Jenny about this in a way he feels he can’t talk to the Wares.
As Ben and Jenny spend time together the rest of the family become “concerned” because Ben is illegitimate and something something social damage if they get together. I admit I didn’t quite understand this. Surely a Duke and an Earl can stare (almost) anyone down about such things if they choose? What social situations exactly would Jenny be unable to participate in if she were married to Ben? Would she care? Would it actually do any damage to the rest of the family? For as much as the Wares have always loved Ben and said they regarded him as their brother, there was a divide. It is not until the book ends (with a HEA because of course) that I felt that gap was mostly bridged and only really because of his (spoiler!) marriage to Jenny. Which, when you think about it is a bit sad really.
There was a scene I desperately wanted but which was not in the book. Luc is concerned and warns Ben off. He at least is not a Ware and so I could understand where he was coming from (mostly?). Luc and Devlin go to town to check on something and I really wanted to know what they talked about. Did Devlin (as he should have) tell Luc to pull his head in and that he’s be lucky to have Ben as a brother-in-law? Or did he agree with Luc’s concerns? What did they talk about?
I don’t quite know how to feel about the disability representation in Always Remember. It wasn’t all bad. But I don’t think it was exactly good either. I’m not qualified to make any definitive pronouncement but there were some things I liked and some things I didn’t. Whether that adds up at a passing grade or not is not my call to make.
In any event, Jenny decides to think about her disability differently – as her incapacity only affecting “one leg” and that it ought not affect her whole life. She knows she will never walk easily but she longs to be less reliant on others. She decides to be more active in her own life rather than being a passive observer.
Ben finds out things about his mother and addresses some complicated feelings about his father. The family realise that Ben knows he’s not really a Ware. (Like, this is a revelation?) I felt a little out of phase with this part of the story. As if I could only fathom it if I looked quickly but the more I stared the blurrier it got.
By the end of the book however, both Ben and Jenny were better off and happy together and Joy was delighted with her new “mama”. I enjoyed the book while I was reading (even though I think some of the social mores the family chose to adhere to were just stupid, especially the one at the end – hello romance reader here) but I don’t think it’s a book I’ll read again. I liked Ben very much. I’m glad he ended up with more than he thought he’d ever have. I liked Jenny too but for me the book was very much about Ben, his history, his place in the family and finding a place where he truly belonged. (Also, I’m a sucker for a single dad and Ben is an exceptional father.)
Grade: B-
Regards,
Kaetrin
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